Maddison Wright

Maddison Wright

Friday, June 10, 2016

It's My Life, My style.

So I'm out today and someone who doesn't know me or had never met me overhead a conversation between me and someone else. Yes the conversation was about me transitioning and going by a different name. Yes it was about me dressing. Well this individual took it upon himself to start telling me my fashion sense was wrong. I'm in cargo shorts, a Green Lantern shirt, and a headband with a green bow on it. The cargo shorts are a greenish color commoflage. I'm way beyond comfortable. Also I'm on my skateboard. First words out of his mouth were you don't match. Uuuummm i dressed for me not to impress anyone. Then he says I need to grow up and not wear comic book shirts. I'm a comic book geek. That won't stop. Then tells me that if I'm a woman I'd have better taste. That I need to figure out who I am or not be anyone at all. I'm a punk rock loving, skateboarding, comic geek, Jean and t-shirts  kinda girl. I know women who were born women that like those things. Why can't I be that as a trans woman? I can be. I'm me. It's not the judging my style that really got me. It's the I need to figure out who I am or be Noone at all comment that got me. It has taken me years, and I mean years to be happy and accepting of who I am. I love me today. The old me he's gone. I'm Maddison. I didn't even think twice about that. But someone got to me today in a way I wasn't expecting. Can't I keep liking all the things I liked before and still like them as me. An awesome woman. It's my body, my style, my choice of how I look. I'm just trying to find my place.

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  1. I cant tell you how many times ive worn camo shorts and a tshirt. seriously, Maddie, dont let ignorant assholes like that get to you. you love you and that makes you BEAUTIFUL!!!!! NOBODY CAN SET PERSONAL STANDARDS EXCEPT FOR THAT PERSON. you do you and let that be the end of it. don't let them get to you babe, there are a lot of ignorant people out there. if you let him pull out a brick from your foundation, then others will follow and soon you'll come crumbling down. <3

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    1. I know I can't and I wont. I'm stronger than that. If I can do this I can do anything.

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  2. Oh I liked the story, How a complete stranger could have the audacity to criticise your or anyones else's appearance (male or female) is one thing, it's another to go at you saying if you were a woman you would have better taste. Of course he just wanted to dig in and use the 'if you were a woman' phrase, he brought it in connection with 'women have a better taste', which you must admit was the only thing he said that was correct! By the way, I would have liked to see what he was wearing..
    Of course women have the better taste than men! And why? because of the diversity in form and colour that society 'allows' us to wear, from makeup, hair, jewellery, from business wear (skirts or trousers) to evening gowns, from walkable shoes to towering stilettos. This means the more choice - the more taste we need to cultivate to cope with the decision of what to wear! ;-)
    Maddie you are who you are, becoming a woman doesn't change that, just the opposite you are removing inner conflicts to complete yourself. You know this of course, but it's nice to hear it from someone else (xx)..
    As Melissa says there is lots of ignorance out there and this incident may reoccur, but you will tick it off as experience with a sweet smelling day cream or a new lipstick! Love Abigale

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